A rather Buddhist life-lesson I learned when I worked with the mentally ill is that it's not the absence of suffering that makes life good, it's the choices one makes in response to the suffering. However, they also taught me that tiny creatures live in the electrical sockets and should be fed on Thursdays.
Something I always say is "It's all good." Which is not to say suffering is good in the sense that it is 'nice', nor is it to passively watch suffering occur and not react and help out. "It's all good" means that you are affirming the suffering. You are saying "yes" to life, the good and the bad. You are not hiding, or denying, or dismissing life. You are taking full responsibility for life, even when the bad stuff happens, and getting in there with full participation. It is just a different way of saying the Sufi adage "Be present at every breath." Live life to the hilt, grab the bull by the horns, act like today is your last day on earth, life is the journey not the destination, etc., etc. And if you say it enough, you annoy all your co-workers and ironically become a source of their suffering.
The evil part of our mental health system is the focus on technique in spite of the individual. There are hundreds of techniques focused on relieving suffering without allowing the individual the responsibility and work of dealing with the suffering. Anger or depression, for example, are not fixed quantities that can be simply used up and then you are cured. They are part of the waxing and waning sufferings of life that one must learn how to deal with. Modern mental health treatment pays little attention to this personal responsibility. It goes where the money is, baby! That usually means pills.
All a pill does is dull a person's experience of the illness (I'm talkng mainly about mood disorders, not psychotic disorders which certainly need plenty of pills.) so that they can function in daily life, but the suffering is still there. Sure, one can go on through life like that, but the suffering rarely stays quiet--it finds other ways to express itself. The pill is a tool that should only be used for a short time while the person is taught how to say "It's all good" and learn how to go through suffering. Unfortunately insurance pays for the pills well enough, but for therapy? Eh...not so much.
Freedom is making conscious decisions amid life's sufferings (and all life is suffering is some form or another).
Effective therapy teaches a person awareness of this freedom and the tools to help maintain it. Ineffective therapy attempts no teaching or guidance, but makes the person a non-participatory bump-on-a-log victim of life who lives at home with their mother even though they're 40 years old. And the increasing odds are, unfortunately, that you know someone like that.
Say, here's some related ER trivia: A 40 year old male who lives with their mother and whines about whatever symptoms they are having is sometimes refered to as a Mangina, as in, "Hey, The Mangina in Bed 1 wants his demerol again."
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